Being able to stay calm in a stressful situation is a skill that will help exponentially in life. I have found myself struggling to stay calm since i’ve been in college here at SXU. I stress about friendships, time management, due dates, and exams, and if you catch me when i’m letting myself get stressed- i’m not myself. However, when i’m not stressing about the work that needs to be done, and remaining calm while doing it, I find myself producing quality work, faster. After all, stressing out about things creates another distraction that keeps one from doing what the cause of their stress is.
Staying calm is a lot easier said than done, here are some tips to help you remain calm:
- Discuss your frustration. A lot of times, stress that we are feeling is caused or involves other people. Simply just talking to somebody about issues can often alleviate the stress. Even if the stress you are feeling doesn’t involve another person, talking to somebody about stress and frustration that you have kept internalized will often help you see your situation differently.
- Find outlets. Work out, paint, meditate, do yoga. It doesn’t matter what you do, but do something!! It’s a lot easier to get down to work when you’ve had your fair share of fun. Don’t have too much fun, spending too much time doing things that are for pleasure will not keep you calm when your deadline is tomorrow and you haven’t started yet.
- Have a schedule/routine. Personally, I do certain classes homework on the same day every week. This way I make sure that I have all my work done and I can remain calm usually… though I still catch myself procrastinating sometimes.
SXU has a great staff so over all keeping calm has actually not been as much of a struggle here as I thought. Remember people, mind over matter:)
Hello all! Hope you’re all starting to get out your warm weather clothes!
This week at Saint Xavier our Muslim group had a Muslim culture week like thing going on. I approached their table and they informed me of some common misconceptions about their heritage, and I ended up participating in the week’s activities. The first, is that opposed to what people may believe, men are not said to be any more superior than women- they are simply stated to be the protectors of their wives. This is how men are generally thought about in our society as well, a husband is supposed to make sure nothing happens to his wife. Another really interesting thing I learned is that Muslim women aren’t forced to wear the hijab. But more so, because I kind of already knew that, they choose to do so at whichever extent they feel comfortable in because it is empowering and makes them feel like it results in more of a personal representation as opposed to physical.
For the week I participated in a dawn to dusk fast while in hijab for four days. I’ve never tried to fast before and can I tell you, it was hard. Especially because in Muslim tradition when one fasts they are not
“I am calm, I am peaceful, I am happy”
allowed anything in their body- yes, water is not allowed. However, it also reminded of the power of one’s will and that perseverance is always an option. I am also a practicing Buddhist, every time I felt too hungry to do anything and like I couldn’t make it I would meditate. It was surprisingly easier to be at peace and still while I was fasting. My brain and body were more than happy to have the opportunity to stop thinking and acting not just to take a break, but because I needed to; it instantaneously felt like a release.
Another thing that I did differently this week to observe and gain insight into the Muslim culture was wear hijab. I do so by wearing my long skirts with some of my more baggy tops. This was interesting because people could physically see that I was doing something differently. I would catch people who were giving me weird looks and some of them even said something. Maybe they weren’t even being mean or rude, my male Muslim friend in passing said to me “wait, I’m confused.” It ultimately did the same for me as it did for others: culture shock. I appreciate Muslim women in hijab so much more now. It is in fact empowering. There is a sense of both being refined and mystery. I had a heightened sense of awareness for, as weird as this may sound, my head; I felt proud. However, there is of course the inevitable judgments of others and failure to understand the nature of our differences.
Don’t be afraid to try something new! Especially when it comes to exploring more about the human race from a different spectrum. I find myself appreciating our species and feeling insightful more and more after every expierence I choose to take advantage of!
‘Til next time!
Last night was halloween- and man was it fun! Though it was rainy, which really bummed me out because I wanted to go trick or treating, my friends and I still dressed up and enjoyed the holiday. I ended up being a bird and my favorite costume that I saw was the green monster Mike from Monsters Inc. St Xavier hosted a halloween party in the Andrew Center for all of us students and between the DJ and free pizza, it was the most successful and fun event thus far hosted by St Xaves! This holiday, more so than any other, makes me remember one thing: How much I love being a kid.
And yes, please notice the present tense of that statement. Getting dressed up on halloween and seeing my friends dressed up gives me giddy sensation that is so innocent it reminds me that childhood isn’t dead. Halloween gives me an excuse to wear the irregular, the imaginative, the questionable combinations that I would never wear anymore; but when I was a child, I had no fear. I don’t think it was a lack of fear, more so a lack of fashion sense, but none the less I was more free as a child.
Another thing that made me appreciate the child in me was how disappointed I was that I didn’t get to go trick or treating. I’ve legitimately gone every year except for this year. There’s just something about running around with my friends in costumes giggling, knocking on strangers doors, and getting free candy that makes my year. My Sophomore year my friends and I started donating the majority of our candy to our local hospital’s program so kids who couldn’t trick or treat got candy too… and candy makes you fat:p
Anyway, Halloween is awesome, dressing up in costumes is awesome, and so is childhood!!!
’til next time!
Okay, so don’t judge me, but I got a D in one of my classes for midterms. Though I’d like to say it purely motivated me that much more to work hard, which it did somewhat, I was mainly just discouraged and down on myself. Thoughts like ‘I’m not good enough for college’ and ‘I shoulda just dropped that class like I had an initial urge to at the beginning of the semester’ played through my mind continuously. All my friends realized my decline in dedication and determination and talked me up with sentiments like ‘it’s just midterms’, ‘isn’t that your class that just takes quiz grades’, and ‘Danielle, one D doesn’t make you dumb’ to cheer me up; and it did, to some extent.
In reality, having this initial reaction and mindset due to my midterm grade only hindered me. This past Tuesday we had another quiz. I started studying 3 days in advance this time and it really paid off. I got an A on the exam and discovered I now have a B; My worrying was pointless. It harmed more than it helped. At the end of the day, no matter what situation your in, if you want to get out of it, all you have to do is change your behavior. That’s what I did and I now have 3 A’s and 3 B’s, and I’m feeling awesome about my standing and like I have a refreshed view of my education.
I hope that all you beautiful people aren’t stressing too much and enjoying the Fall season as much as I am! I’m going down town in a bit, ‘til next time.
When I first came to Saint Xavier, I never ate breakfast. I’d always been told, as I’m sure we all were, “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day!” However, a combination of a) fear of the Freshmen 15 and b) waking up 15 minutes before classes start kept me from starting my day off with fresh nutrients for fuel. I started eating breakfast here about two weeks ago and here is what I discovered:
- Make plans and go with a friend. Chances are, there are a decent amount of people you know that would also enjoy kick-starting their day with some brain food. So, ask around, make plans the day before for where you should meet and at what time. You’ll get to start off with socialization, a smile, and a full tummy! You’re morning professor will thank you!
- Go 30 minutes after you wake up. Preferably. I used to wake up, go to class and then after class go get breakfast. However, doing some research, I realized experts suggest that eating within 30 minutes of waking up jump starts your metabolism the most.
- Switch it up. Here at Saint Xavier we have a decent amount of options, so take advantage of them! One of the most yummy delicacies we have here at SXU in regards to breakfast are the Starbucks breakfast sandwiches and wraps! The diner also has breakfast every morning consisting of omelets, eggs, french toast, pancakes, waffles and sausage and bacon. To top it off you can always get a breakfast sub from Subway at the Shannon Center.
Though in college it is easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of things, maintaining good health and practices will keep you on your toes and on an internal schedule that will become natural.
Take care of your beautiful selves and rejoice in the fact that midterms are almost done! AND EAT BREAKFAST :p
‘Til next week.
Within life I have met all different kinds of people. I have not been able to get over how amazed and grateful I am for the individualism of each and everyone of the people I have gotten to know. As humans social interactions
Me and my peeps from back home embracing the winter:)
are a main element that keep us satisfied and fulfilled. I have found that whether social interactions are positive or negative, they have instrumental lessons that you can learn about life. Before college, I will say I have had 5 instrumental people that can be nothing other than my best friends. A life long friend of mine who has helped me explore my beliefs and personal code is Deena Delgingaro- she I would say is my truest friend. Then gained in elementary school was Rachel Roseberry. With whom I first started pushing the limits with.
Then in middle school I connected with Katie Mullan and Lydia Auch. Katie and I helped each other maintain our weirdness and realize it is acceptable as long as you accept it. Lydia helped me be more analytical and conscious about who I was as a human being. High school was a big shift, and it was also where Andie Huml joined my group of friends. Andie and I went together very well. We amplified each others’ outgoing, creative sides while always having each others’ backs.
Being separated from all my friends and family has been hard because they mean so much to me. However, here in Regina I am starting to find myself growing exponentially with the friends I have made. Living on
Me and Amanda, one of my closest friend at SXU!
your own and in a dorm is a giant leap in responsibility and will push you in ways you’ve never been pushed before. Making friends with people in the dorms was something I knew was going to be pretty simple because I am a social individual. However, my relationships and connections with multiple people have grown so much already. I can tell that there will be some life long memories, lessons, and friends that happen here.
‘Til next week!
@ The Werks, Electric Forest!! WERK IT:)
This summer I funded an experience that completely revamped my attitude and kind of changed my life. I went to four music festivals! I knew plenty ofpeople that went to them and loved the openness and happy energy that almost everyone embodied. The first one I attended was by far my favorite: Summer Camp Music Festival. Though it rained 2 ½ of the 4 days, I felt surrounded by a happy, caring, and kind community. There was one guy who came by our campsite and was handing out rain ponchos. Everybody works towards making the environment not only enjoyable, but so life-changing that you will not want to leave
Summer Camp Music Festival ’13, Right after we set up camp. First show of the weekend!
There’s literally a vibe in the air that screams PLUR- Peace Love Unity and Respect- everywhere. It’s a wide spread sentiment that we are getting less and less connected with people and it seems that individuals have generally stopped caring as much about others and humanity as a whole. There were people there that were kind, open and loving; it didn’t matter who you were or what you looked like- you felt taken care of. I came back from that first weekend with a refreshed view of my family, social life, and jobs; I suddenly had a newfound positive aura and desire to help everyone and anyone. That being said, moving into a dorm has been another life changing experience.
At Electric Forest right after Future Rock! <3
I’m extremely happy to have had this revelation; I believe that my current time living in Regina Hall would not be such a growing and awesome experience had I not. To be the only one responsible for myself, to have known 2 people that I met at FOCUS over the summer, to go down a bed size, and to have a room the size you used to have for yourself but sharing it with a pretty much stranger: I literally love it. It’s hard, but living in a four-story building with a bunch of new interesting people gives me the sense of community I’ve experienced at festivals like Summer Camp and Electric Forest. Granted, it’s work; ya know, school. But, it is an exploration of life nevertheless so i’m having fun and making connections that are giving me the hope and light I found this summer. This weekend is homecoming so i’m having fun this lovely Friday afternoon finishing up most of my weekend work! Til’ next time!!
“Happiness can be found in the darkest of places if only one remembers to turn on the lights.”- Albus Dumbledore.
“Critically thinking, it is not easy to continue to be an individual while going throughout life in our society. Since my fifth grade teacher, Mr. Hardt, taught us about this hard fact of life and gave us an environment where we could truly exercise our individualities virtually uncriticized- I have fallen in love with the light each person holds, and the different ways they carry it. Not only those I dislike, but those that I despise, I have embodied the love for their eternal energy because positivity is what will get us all through this journey, not just surviving- but discovering, loving, seeing, creating. I have lived my life based off of this idea.”
Hello Everybody!! I wanted to use this first post as an introduction. The above paragraph is an excerpt from my introduction transitions paper assignment. I am currently 18 years old and am double majoring in Political Science and International Studies. I am from Algonquin, Illinois so I chose to stay on campus. Living here is the type of situation where I imagined it, I visualized as best as I could; Then, it actual happened and it kinda left me like, whoa. I have freedom, literally a 4 minute walk max to my classes, I have a cafeteria as a kitchen and Starbucks as a coffee maker, my closest friends are around the corner and down the hall, and I’m going to guestimate that I see a minimum of 5 people a day either about to go into the shower or just getting out- and yes, in case you were wondering, both male and female.
I’d say that the most challenging thing about living on campus and going to school for me is doing priorities (school work) at a timely matter. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I get assignments done on time, but since I’ve been here I go to sleep at 2 a.m. generally every night. That being said, it’s the most fun I do believe I’ve ever had. Yeah, it can be hard and stressful but over all I’m learning a lot about myself and life while making bonds with a dorm full of people. That being said, I’m about to start putting together the 10 minutes presentation I have to do tomorrow while watching the Chronicle; it’s an awesome movie, I suggest it to those who haven’t seen it.